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Learn to anchor peoples emotional repsonses to objects (such as condiments) and make these states stronger or deminish as you please. Visit this site for more info: www.essential-skills.com
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nlp
question for using anchors (not sliding ones). what’s the best way to request permission to “borrow someone’s knuckle” so to speak. I would like to set some anchors but dont’ want the person to be like “stop touching my shoulder/knuckle/whatever_physical_anchorspot”.
nlp
lol. well said. these tactics are only for short-term relationships it would seem. haha.
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Well all kind of powers and new technologies have the possibility to abuse them.
This includes computers the written word and nlp too.
But you are right this stuff can be used to abuse someone, but it brings MORE good into the world. It depends on the people using it.
And Tom is right, you need to live up to your anchors, at least to some extend.
nlp
Bonds don’t require covert techniques. You don’t need to sneak your way into relationships (unless you’re a total loser). Just talk to people like a normal person. “People sometimes manipulate”? Yeah, as in the lesson above. Like I said, try it on me, and I’ll be in your face, not accessing loving states. These techniques would appeal to the creepy loser character Michael, on the tv show, “The Office”.
nlp
If the comparisons were valid, there would be courses in “sneaky showering”, or how to avoid getting caught with perfume on. (BTW perfume is an abuse too; a chemical assault). This conscious attempt to change people’s behavior without them knowing is for losers and sneaks. Otherwise, why conceal it? Nobody misses the fact of a pushup bra. Actually, I don’t see how anyone could miss this weird behavior either. I wouldn’t. My reaction: “WTF is your problem?”
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Gregorypeckory, we anchor each other, everyday, whether we know it or not. Some people we just feel good around and we’ve developed an anchor to them.
And as to your manipulation assertions, everyone manipulates everyone else in some manner. Showering daily is a form of manipulation. Wearing cologne or perfume. Wearing fashionable clothes. THE PUSHUP BRA is a BIG form of manipulation. But nobody is taking a self righteous moral highground against those things, are they?
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I truely understand that you are worried about this and true people sometimes manipulate people.
But this can also be used to keep and let the Bond of two people Grow in each other. And Having these skills can also allow you to have a wonderfull and Honest loving relationship.
The manipulation you are talking about is really happening all the time. What about all those unlucky cuples, dont they often feel cheeted? How would it be if everyone would just life the relationship they dreamed?
nlp
It’s not about me; but rather the ethics of manipulating others. Regardless who does it, it’s an abuse (if it works), to elicit feelings in a “covert”, “sneaky” fashion, installing triggers (also covertly), so that you can control others’ behaviors, push-button style. People are all flawed; I don’t trust anyone with these manipulations. I checked out Bandler and Grinder in a number of videos; they use NLP in an overt, theraputic context, not as puppeteers. You get it all the time for a reason.
nlp
Interesting comment and one I get all the time. The facts are simple. When using anchoring to open doors for people to know you, you also have to live up to the anchor you set. If you violate that anchor then you destroy it.
The real world effect is that these skills open the doorway of communication. They don’t make people love you.
It sounds like you don’t trust yourself with this kind of skill
People who make these kinds of comments usually see themselves abusing the skill
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For that matter, if it works, how do you know you’re not teaching the next Ted Bundy a manipulative trick for building trust without substance. Isn’t it better to build rapport by getting to know someone the old fashioned way; share your thoughts and feelings, encourage them to do the same, have some fun together, and see what develops? What kind of future does a couple have when the relationship is built on a foundation of one sided “covert” manipulations?
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I’m not anti-NLP, but this manipulation is troubling. It’s strange to hear the teachers of it describe as “sneaky” and “covert”, the very methods they advocate using to elicit specific reactions in unwitting participants, such as falling in love with you. I also find it hard to believe that this highly artificial way of interacting would go undetected in real life-how the target wouldn’t ask “WTF are you doing?” is beyond me.
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Or of course she could just get a personality and become interested in other people. At least if you are going to attepm covert then don’t make it overt.
Yawn
nlp
the dude is as hard as a diamond in an ice storm!
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i can see that… also, with that, i think she was pushing the ‘playfulness’ that the guy responded to… which could be considered a bit annoying, like with her head bobbing side to side and the highpitched voice, etc
nlp
If the girl is sexy connection will appear automaticaly.
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I Think not!
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im aware of my actions and responsible of my choices…….idiot!
nlp
well keep doing that, but when someone kicks your ass for it don’t blame them idiot!
nlp
well well looks like someone cant take shit but sure can give it huh:-) suck it up ok…..i will express what i want to say when every i feel like it. thats the bottom line:-)
nlp
I’ve noted that you have this same response to other people as well ! why don’t you go and cry somewhere else, is this woman your mama or something, or you start crying every time people have a different opinion to yours! “danceba231″ I’m very sure a lot of people on here know far more than you! just from your remarks!
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i dont give a shit if you have been doing this since you’ve been in your pampers…..
nlp
she’s good at holding the attention of a room of virgins, but what she really excels at is annoying the shit out of everyone else. she is nails on a chalk board. no where in my post did say that they don’t work together. less name calling, more pay attention, please. sorry, I have no time for these little parlor tricks. people don’t like to feel they are being tooled. not to say there isn’t a time for anchors. at the end of Ross’ book he says, if all else fails beg and cry. what an AFC.
nlp
presupposition alert! you 8 years old when I was a Master practitioner in NLP and I had been doing 4 years then. so ask first! before you presuppose what I know!
nlp
for your information this girl kim already know who Ross is….they have even worked together shit head. Do your fucking homework!
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you dont know what your talking about….shes very good at what she does…..